L(ost) Letters
Tuesday, January 25, 2022
On Effort
Hello from the future. This old relic has been on my mind and I'll be damned if it doesn't still exist in these outer reaches of the internet. I won't share it on Facebook and no one will see it, but here it is like a moldy old year book. I'm still her, but what a laugh and a heartbreak to read my old words. I'm not a recent law school graduate or a new mom. My mother died. I'm not in the same house or the house we bought next. I had another kid. I got divorced and remarried. I have three stepdaughters. I got another job, but Max is still pooting next to me on the couch and I'm still my own favorite audience for dumb jokes.
I'm 37. I'm middle management and quickly approaching middle age. I'm pretty sure I've got a fair amount of grey hair, but highlights keep my secrets. I have a 401k and a 20th high school reunion right around the corner. I have children that know more about pop culture (and everything else) than I do.
Speaking of culture. I can't think of anything less cool than a blog in 2022, but I think that might be what's drawing me back in. One of my favorite things about getting older and knocked down a few good times is that I am so much freer from caring about doing it right. I can still worry a hole through the wall, though. My changing face and not being the youngest in the meeting anymore has a grip on me right now, but I know its just this stage. I know I'll come out on the other side like we always do, with new wisdom and fewer fears.
All of this to say, I think I'll visit again soon.
Monday, August 11, 2014
Window Shopping
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Hiding in My Office
....When I'm still wearing pajamas and haven't yet put on makeup and tell Craig I'm almost ready he looks at me with a look that belies doubt. I don't get defensive, though, because he obviously just lacks imagination.
...Where is the line between complaining and commiseration? We know an individual that cannot commiserate. If one of us brings up something going on in our life, this person always plays devil's advocate or points out the wrongness of our perspective as if conversations have to have a point/counterpoint format. I don't need my friends to always agree with me, or feel like they can't offer insight, but sometimes a "me too," "that's tough," or "I hear you" can go really far. I have a feeling that said friend thinks they're being helpful, but really, its exhausting. Discussing the difficulties of parenting/work/life in general with friends makes your burden lighter. I'm all for being positive, but knee-jerk positivity isn't a character asset. Its a tic.
...I want to applaud people that look good with bangs. Like, out loud.
...I always play with the idea of trying to write a book. Not publish, just write. The chances that I'll follow through are so very slim that I won't even consider the astronomical odds that it would ever be worthy of publication. I like to read articles on fiction writing and how to get started writing a book. I've read so many that I think I could have a successful career in writing how-tos on the subject. From what I've seen, there are two main pieces of advice floating around. The first is to write what you know. I know a good chunk of the Tennessee Criminal Code. I know and celebrate all of Jay Z and The Shins catalogs. I know how right and just it is to put on pajamas the moment one gets home from work. The other suggestion is to write what you'd like to read. The books I'm currently reading include Fifty Shades Freed, The Upanishads, The Centaur, The Hindu-Yogi Science of Breath, Most Talkative by Andy Cohen, and one about Christian and Sufi mystics. So, I guess that would be a sort of post modern pervy/gossipy text centered on Eastern religion and mysticism. Sounds like a bestseller.
...Can you really say you "don't like the taste of water" and still be considered a human?
...Are they hotdogs or are they legs (http://hot-dog-legs.tumblr.com/)? Thank you, Craig, for sharing this. Also, if you like laughter: http://www.toddlercouncil.org/. Please read the "About" and "Press Release" sections.